Having meaningful conversations with strangers

Our lives are rich with situations that involve interacting with strangers. Whether by choice or as a product of circumstance, these exchanges shouldn’t be undervalued or overlooked. They are real opportunities to improve your overall networking ability and stimulate your social life.  Every conversation is practice and with enough practice you can become incredibly skilled at striking up great conversations and quickly building rapport, leading to sales, opportunities, relationships or social excitement.  But don’t expect to always feel comfortable starting a conversation. That’s not the point. The point is to become better over time. Eventually, you will become noticeably more confident and feel much more comfortable and consequently more successful at avoiding awkwardness and creating meaningful conversations.

Here are some tips on having good conversations with strangers


10 rules of life from Tolstoy

In Henri Troyat’s biography, Tolstoy‘>Tolstoy,  Troyat includes an excerpt from Tolstoy’s “Rules of Life”. Tolstoy wrote these rules when he was eighteen years old:

  • Get up early (five o’clock)
  • Go to bed early (nine to ten o’clock)
  • Eat little and avoid sweets
  • Try to do everything by yourself
  • Have a goal for your whole life, a goal for one section of your life, a goal for a shorter period and a goal for the year; a goal for every month, a goal for every week, a goal for every day, a goal for every hour and for every minute, and sacrifice the lesser goal to the greater
  • Keep away from women
  • Kill desire by work
  • Be good, but try to let no one know it
  • Always live less expensively than you might
  • Change nothing in your style of living even if you become ten times richer

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